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by Hannah Lemholt

'In order to become a butterfly you have to go through the negativity. 

It is your journey, it’s just the way it is. 

There is a special way in which to do it, if you are one of those people who are always searching for light you will turn into a moth, 

always flying around in the darkness looking for light. 

Sometimes these lights are naked flames and you will get burned. 

In order to become a butterfly you go in and out of the darkness, 

in and out of the darkness, in and out… 

And sometimes you feel like you are going up and down, up and down… 

high vibration to low vibration… But we say to you: get used to it. 

Remind yourself that you’re on your way to becoming a butterfly.

 Each time you move into the darkness and out is like releasing one of the silk threads in the cocoon wrapped around the butterfly. 

And the more you do this the more comfortable you become with the process, 

the more you trust and the more you can flow with your life.'

Let someone love you just the way you are – as flawed as you might be, 

as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as unaccomplished as you think you are. 

To believe that you must hide all the parts of you that are broken, 

out of fear that someone else is incapable of loving what is less than perfect, 

is to believe that sunlight is incapable of entering a broken window 

and illuminating a dark room.

Marc Hack 

via eclektic

The loneliest people are the kindest. 

The saddest people smile the brightest. 

The most damaged people are the wisest. 

All because they do not wish to see anyone else suffer the way they do.

Unknown

silverstudiobox- studio lisboa-wings

Woman in red in Pamukkale, Turkey, 1986

hushpuppy says- 'all the time, everywhere, everything's hearts are beating and squirting, 

and talking to each other the ways I can't understand'

Mood Board made by me
sources:
1.ruth allen pinterest  2.serapart tumblr  3.flowers wasbella 102
4.blue pattern via tumblr source unknown  5.gerhard richter

Winter’s running late as spring hesitates to arrive
And yet all I see, are hues of a heart so vibrant and alive
I would catch the fastest sail to be by your side
If only moments like these could convey all that’s raging inside

I have always found your face, whenever I look at mine
Praying that the reflection I see,
Could one day be with yours,
for all time

Journey on, footsteps beating along with my heart
And know that no matter where your roads take you…
It will always be your shores I drift to, even from the start

Find me in yesterdays and look for me in your tomorrows
And I shall seek you out in fateful sunrises and retreating sorrows

And,
If I ever lose myself in this winding path of new
Those eyes of yours will lead me back to no other home, but you.

 Find Me, Ruby Bernardo

lindie dourthe

You have no idea how hard I’ve looked
for a gift to bring You.

Nothing seemed right.

What’s the point of bringing gold to

the gold mine, or water to the ocean.

Everything I came up with was like

taking spices to the Orient.

It’s no good giving my heart and my

soul because you already have these.

So I’ve brought you a mirror.

Look at yourself and remember me.

Rumi

Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue.

Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them.

And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.

Rainer Maria Rilke

To live in this world
you must be able
to do three things:
to love what is mortal;
to hold it
against your bones knowing
your own life depends on it;
and, when the time comes to let it go,
to let it go.

Mary Oliver, closing lines to “In Blackwater Woods” from American Primitive (Little, Brown and Company, 1983)

The awful thing is that beauty is mysterious as well as terrible. 

God and the devil are fighting there and the battlefield is the heart of man.

Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Brothers Karamazov 

via serapart tumblr

And I began to let him go. Hour by hour. Days into months. 

It was a physical sensation, like letting out the string of a kite. 

Except that the string was coming from my center.

 You Better Not Cry, Augusten Burroughs

swan by Victor Selinger

brian nuda rosch

figs

via scarflove tumblr

Perfectionism doesn’t make you feel perfect; 

it makes you feel inadequate.

Maria Shriver

mmm...

Frustration signals that you’re about to change something for the better. Learn to appreciate this and other emotions that you may have once seen only as a negative. 

If you’re frustrated about something, recognize it’s a sign to seek new solutions… 

and appreciate this emotion’s ability to get you into ACTION. 

Frustration can easily be turned into excitement or inspiration. 

Mike Klingler

unbenannt by brandimd on flickr

There’s something beautiful about keeping certain aspects of your life hidden. 

Maybe people and clouds are beautiful because you can’t see everything.

Kamenashi Kazuya

the sky is my house...

this week-end, reflecting on these thoughts...

UNDERSTANDING THE WISDOM IN YOUR ANGER

Almost always anger arises when you feel you have been wronged, when there is an approaching danger, when something you value is being interfered with, blocked, or denied. To some degree, the intensity of your anger is present so that you could annihilate the threat, clear the hurdle, or push aside the obstacle that is in your way or coming toward you. Phrased another way, anger often arises when your needs, rights, or deepest wants are being threatened, violated, or ignored. 

This in turn makes anger not a crazy emotion but rather an emotion that is trying 

to stand up for you—an emotion that is trying to assert, protect, 

or attain that which you both need and hold dear. […]

There also is a quiet statement of worth within such anger. 

Anger that arises to protect is rooted in a notion that I am worthy of having my needs met, 

my rights respected, and my desires deemed legitimate. 

Recognizing that within the fury of your anger is a quiet statement 

of your needs and worth can be liberating.

Rather than judging your anger as inappropriate, you can validate the genesis of your anger. Yes, it was wrong that I was mistreated; 

yes, my inherent human needs ought to have been met; 

no, it was not okay that my rights were denied; no, my wants should not have been manipulated, etc…. Claiming allegiance to the validity of your anger can free you from acting out your anger and can aid you in beginning to claim the fact of your worth.

By taking on this perspective, you shift your relationship with anger

—rather than connecting with anger’s urge to action or anger’s bodily feelings, 

you now relate to its message of legitimacy and worth. 

This shift, in turn, frees you to grow through your anger; because you have understood the message within the anger, the anger may not need to arise as often or as intensely.

I will be the first to recognize that transforming your relationship with anger is not an easy task, but I do encourage you to at least reflect on the possibility that there are grains of wisdom and truth within your fiery anger. 

I also encourage you to reach out to a trained therapist so that you can receive all the support, guidance, and assistance you both deserve and might need in understanding, listening to, and healing through the anger related to your trauma(s). 

As always, I encourage you to heal, to grow, and to claim your inherent right to lead a peaceful and meaningful life.

©Copyright 2012 by Susanne M. Dillmann, PsyD

mood board by me
sources:
1-4. sea scapes via fukutomi tumblr