Saturday, December 26, 2015


As of late I’ve found physical attraction is no longer enough. 
I need genuine connection. 
I need to undress the layers of a soul before I feel a desire to tear away any clothes. Passion remains the fire, 
but now intimacy strikes the match, and friendship has become the fuel.

Beau Taplin

Marry your best friend. 
I do not say that lightly.
 Really, truly find the strongest, happiest friendship in the person you fall in love with. Someone who speaks highly of you. Someone you can laugh with. 
The kind of laughs that make your belly ache, and your nose snort. 
The embarrassing, earnest, healing kind of laughs. 
Wit is important. 
Life is too short not to love someone who lets you be a fool with them. 
Make sure they are somebody who lets you cry, too. 
Despair will come. Find someone that you want to be there with you through those times. Most importantly, marry the one that makes passion, 
love, and madness combine and course through you. 
A love that will never dilute - even when the waters get deep, and dark. 


Monday, December 21, 2015

We must choose between the pain of having to transcend oppressive circumstances, or the pain of perpetual unfulfillment within them, the pain of growth or the pain of decay; 
embrace the tribulations of realizing your potential, 
or consent to the slow suicide in complacency.

Friday, December 18, 2015

christmas mood


❝ Love better. Love wrongly even. Love clumsy and half out your mind. Love spectacular. And less so. Love with mistakes. And forgiveness. Tolerance. Humility. Love with all the lights on. Every light. Every love. Love at every inconvenience. Love hurt. Love spoiled. Love against your better judgement. Love out of your comfort zone. Love wild as ivy. Loud as lion roar. But love quiet when needed. Love hummingbird. Daisy chain. Love in whispers, and in waiting. Love in vulnerability. Love sacred. Love like the head that bends to the prayer mat. Love soft as holy bread. Love resurrection. Love second, third, one hundredth coming. Love in faith. And in loss of it. Love anyway. Love even though. Love just because, and in spite of. Love after the storm. Love devastation. Among the debris. Love humbly. And with apology. And without. Love unreasonably. Unwaveringly. Undone. Love undone. Love unasked. Love unaware of the consequences. Love with reckless optimism. Love earnest as a child. Hopeful as a birthday candle. Love like you don’t know better. Love like you don’t care to. ❞

Wednesday, December 9, 2015

1. Meeting her will be like the first time you heard your favorite song. You’ll listen to her speak, and though it may be unfamiliar, you somehow know that this will be important.
2. You’ll find yourself staring at the back of her head, wondering how her hair could fall so perfectly. You’ll realize that not everyone else is as captivated as you and you’ll wonder why.
3. She’ll tell you the about the tattoo on her foot and when her birthday is and stories about college. You’ll remember them all and she’ll tell you you have a good memory. You’ll tell her she has pretty eyes.
4. You’ll go awhile without seeing her. You won’t realize how much space she occupied until she’s not there. You’ll wish the world was smaller.
5. When you see her again, it will be like coming up for air after spending a beat too long underwater. Her hair will be a little longer but you can finally breathe again because you’re looking into her eyes instead of trying to remember the exact color of them. You’ll forget about every day that you went without her. You’ll forget that there was life before her name.


Saturday, December 5, 2015

We think that our souls will patch up all the holes, all the tears in our armor, but no! 
That is not what Soul is for.
Your Soul is ruthless in her love. She is not going to patch you up. 
She is going to tear you open, and pour herself, as you, into the world.
Soul is not there to give you comfort. 
She is there to deny you the comfort of cushions and lies that lull you into smallness, 
into danger.
The world will tell you that greatness is a target on your back, but it is your only safety, 
if there is such a thing in a state as transient as matter.
Your Soul came to feed the hungry faithful. 
To hold the wailing woman, and show her she is wild. She is free.
You are not here to manufacture anything but the glory of the Source that is all love.
Your Soul cares not about the latest fashion, the brand-name i-something, 
the grandeur of your foyer. She does not wear a crown of golden metal. 
She will bring you to lavender fields and invite you to crown yourself with the splendor of God, freely given, and everywhere that his not been smoothed over with concrete.
There are billions of prayers sent up into the sky, 
begging for an end to suffering. We are that end. 
You, reading this: that is the call. 
You are the one. 
And I am too, so you are not alone.
Life could be beautiful, soul-full, wild and lush, 
dripping from the sides of our mouths with pleasure. 
Everyone deserves heaven, paradise, a chance to embody the One Love that is the Divine Inheritance of every single Soul.
Don’t you know who you are? Do you not remember your galactic spirit, sun-star heart? 
Are you waiting for a new sign? Let this be it.
Your Soul wants you to know, it is time to lay down all your reasons for living 
a life too small for you. 
Your Soul accepts no excuses, for failing to sing your holy song. 
You do not need more time.
 You need more faith. 
Can you hold it long enough to be reborn?

Alison Nappi

Friday, December 4, 2015

Love needs an entry point. 
If our emotional body is blocked up with unresolved material, there’s no way in. 
The more we empty the vessel before it comes, 
the more space love has to flourish. Healing our hearts gives love a place to land.

Jeff Brown

Wednesday, December 2, 2015

Feminism isn’t about making women stronger. Women are already strong. 
It’s about changing the way the world perceives that strength.

 G.D Anderson 

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 The more I live the more I think two people together is a miracle. 

Tuesday, December 1, 2015


Danielle put a hand against her chest.
 “We’re born with everything in here – everything we need to be happy and whole. 
But as soon as life starts frightening us, 
we give away pieces of ourselves to make the danger go away. 
It’s an insidious trade: you want life to stop scaring you, so you give it a part of yourself. 
You give away your pride, your dignity, or your courage…
When all you feel is fear, you don’t need dignity. 
So you don’t mind giving that away - at the moment. 
But you regret it later, oh boy do you ever, 
because we need all those pieces to be complete.


tanner wandell stewart

Sunday, November 29, 2015

In life there are only a small number of people who we choose to keep in our hearts. 
Over the years a lot come in and go out– lovers, friends, family… 
Some of them hang around for a while, 
and some want to stay even after we order them to leave. 
But only a handful, no more than two handfuls if you are very lucky, are welcome forever. 


fleeting time

When you’re young you think all the glory is waiting for you just around the corner 
and when it comes it will last a long time. 
But when you’ve had some life experience you know joy is a fleeting thing
 that must be recognized and embraced fully WHENEVER we get it. 


via browndresswithdots tumblr

Friday, November 27, 2015

I don’t often miss people.
I miss vibes, energies and connections.

 Alex Elle

Tuesday, November 24, 2015

 You ruin your life by desensitizing yourself. 
We are all afraid to say too much, to feel too deeply, to let people know what they mean to us. Caring is not synonymous with crazy.
 Expressing to someone how special they are to you will make you vulnerable. There is no denying that. 
However, that is nothing to be ashamed of. 
There is something breathtakingly beautiful in the moments of smaller magic that occur when you strip down 
and are honest with those who are important to you. 
Let that girl know that she inspires you. 
Tell your mother you love her in front of your friends. 
Express, express, express. 
Open yourself up, do not harden yourself to the world, 
and be bold in who, and how you love. 
There is courage in that. 


 Does he treat you with respect at all times? That’s the first question. 
The second question is, if he is the exact same person twenty years from now that he is today, would you still want to marry him? 
And finally, does he inspire to be a better person? You find someone you can answer yes to all three, then you’ve found a good man. 

Sunday, November 22, 2015

Loving someone should be hard and active, not easy and passive. 
When you sign up to actually love people – no fakers allowed – 
then you sign up for a life of runny noses, awkward car rides, 
hugs that last too long, pauses that demand no noise, 
and admitting you were wrong. 
If you want to actually love people 
then you have to be willing to be wrong.
Love is forgiveness. And it’s atonement. 
And it’s basically like putting your soul in a washing machine – 
it’s not some gentle cycle, it’s a fierce whipping that rings you out good.
It makes the stains fade.
Best of all, it fills the holes.


yuko nagayama 'muse touch'


 A soulmate is not someone who shares your interests and is attractive to you. 
A soulmate is someone who is willing to grow with you, 
who chooses to be with you until the end, and will love you through good and bad. 
It’s not about sunshine and laughter, 
it’s about mundane moments filled with unknowns. 
Love is so much more than a spark you have, or passions shared, 
it’s working for something deeper and lasting.
 I think that at the end of all things, we’ll see what really matters, 
and I think the things we produced with love and grace 
will be what we have to show. 
So love with purpose, love beyond yourself, 
and love knowing that what you are growing is beautiful and good. 


Monday, November 16, 2015

And I cried. For myself. 
For this woman talkin’ about love.
For all the women who have ever stretched their bodies out anticipating 
civilization and finding ruins.

Sonia Sanchez


I hope that I get to see you love what you are. 
To know yourself as a gift and worth and truth. 
That you see what a huge thing it is to have the courage to break your own heart. 
That you have chosen wholeness - even when it has shattered you. 
And that you will one day see that you can be whole and broken in the exact same spaces, that they nestle side by side - and that this is the way of things. 
Not your punishment for wrongdoing, or for not trying hard enough - 
but just the way of things.

Jeanette LeBlanc

Saturday, October 24, 2015


When we talk about living with passion, which is sort of a cliché, what exactly do we mean?
I suppose that people who live with passion start out with an especially intense desire to complete themselves. We are the only animals who are naturally unfinished. 
We have to bring ourselves to fulfillment, to integration and to coherence.

Some people are seized by this task with a fierce longing. Maybe they are propelled by wounds that need urgent healing or by a fear of loneliness or fragmentation. 
Maybe they are driven by some glorious fantasy to make a mark on the world. 
But they often have a fervent curiosity about their inner natures and an unquenchable thirst to find some activity that they can pursue wholeheartedly, without reservation.

They construct themselves inwardly by expressing themselves outwardly. 
Members of the clergy sometimes say they convert themselves from the pulpit. By speaking out their faith, they make themselves faithful. People who live with passion do that. 
By teaching or singing or writing or nursing or parenting they bring coherence to the scattered impulses we are all born with inside. 

By doing some outward activity they understand and define themselves. 
A life of passion happens when an emotional nature meets a consuming vocation.

Another trait that marks them is that they have high levels of both vulnerability and courage. As Martha Nussbaum wrote in her great book “Upheavals of Thought,” to be emotional is to attach yourself to something you value supremely but don’t fully control. 
To be passionate is to put yourself in danger.

Living with this danger requires a courage that takes two forms. 
First, people with passion have the courage to dig down and play with their issues. 
We all have certain core concerns and tender spots that preoccupy us through life. 

Writers and artists may change styles over the course of their careers, 
but most of them are turning over the same few preoccupations in different ways.

David Brookes

Thursday, October 8, 2015

At the heart of our matter as human beings, really the best thing of all is passion. 
Passion for another person, for a job, a cause, an idea, a place…. 
passion for a book when it’s good enough to light up the inside of your head. 
Perhaps that’s what IT is all about– our Purpose: trying to furnish your life with so many different kinds of passion that everywhere in it there is something that fills you to bursting and makes you want to tell the whole world about it. 


The line of a man’s neck can change your life. 
The way he digs in his pockets for change can make your heart groan and hands grow cold. How he touches your elbow or the button that is not closed on the cuff of his shirt 
are demons he’s loosed without ever knowing it. 
They own us immediately. 


Friday, September 25, 2015

just a list

1.There are plenty of ways to enter a pool. The stairs is not one of them.
2. Never cancel dinner plans by text message.
3. Don’t knock it ‘til you try it. 
4. If a street performer makes you stop walking, you owe him a buck.
5. Always use ‘we’ when referring to your home team or your government.
6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
7. Don’t underestimate free throws in a game of ‘horse’.
8. Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
9. Don’t dumb it down.
10. You only get one chance to notice a new haircut.
11. If you’re staying more than one night, unpack.
12. Never park in front of a bar.
13. Expect the seat in front of you to recline. Prepare accordingly.
14. Keep a picture of your first fish, first car, and first boy/girlfriend.
15. Hold your heroes to a high standard.
16. A suntan is earned, not bought.
17. Never lie to your doctor.
18. All guns are loaded.
19. Don’t mention sunburns. Believe me, they know.
20. The best way to show thanks is to wear it. Even if it’s only once.
21. Take a vacation of your cell phone, internet, and TV once a year.
22. Don’t fill up on bread, no matter how good.
23. A handshake beats an autograph.
24. Don’t linger in the doorway. In or out.
25. If you choose to go in drag, don’t sell yourself short.
26. If you want to know what makes you unique, sit for a caricature.
27. Never get your hair cut the day of a special event.
28. Be mindful of what comes between you and the Earth. Always buy good shoes, tires, and sheets.
29. Never eat lunch at your desk if you can avoid it.
30. When you’re with new friends, don’t just talk about old friends.
31. Eat lunch with the new kids.
32. When traveling, keep your wits about you.
33. It’s never too late for an apology.
34. Don’t pose with booze.
35. If you have the right of way, take it.
36. You don’t get to choose your own nickname.
37. When you marry someone, remember you marry their entire family.
38. Never push someone off a dock.
39. Under no circumstances should you ask a woman if she’s pregnant.
40. It’s not enough to be proud of your ancestry; live up to it.
41. Don’t make a scene.
42. When giving a thank you speech, short and sweet is best.
43. Know when to ignore the camera.
44. Never gloat.
45. Invest in good luggage.
46. Make time for your mom on your birthday. It’s her special day, too.
47. When opening presents, no one likes a good guesser.
48. Sympathy is a crutch, never fake a limp.
49. Give credit. Take blame.
50. Suck it up every now and again.
51. Never be the last one in the pool.
52. Don’t stare.
53. Address everyone that carries a firearm professionally.
54. Stand up to bullies. You’ll only have to do it once.
55. If you’ve made your point, stop talking.
56. Admit it when you’re wrong.
57. If you offer to help don’t quit until the job is done.
58. Look people in the eye when you thank them.
59. Thank the bus driver.
60. Never answer the phone at the dinner table.
61. Forgive yourself for your mistakes.
62. Know at least one good joke.
63. Don’t boo. Even the ref is somebody’s son.
64. Know how to cook one good meal.
65. Learn to drive a stick shift.
66. Be cool to younger kids. Reputations are built over a lifetime.
67. It’s okay to go to the movies by yourself.
68. Dance with your mother/father.
69. Don’t lose your cool. Especially at work.
70. Always thank the host.
71. If you don’t understand, ask before it’s too late.
72. Know the size of your boy/girlfriend’s clothes.
73. There is nothing wrong with a plain t-shirt.
74. Be a good listener. Don’t just wait for your turn to talk.
75. Keep your word.
76. In college, always sit in the front. You’ll stand out immediately.
77. Carry your mother’s bags. She carried you for nine months.
78. Be patient with airport security. They’re just doing their jobs.
79. Don’t be the talker in a movie.
80. The opposite sex likes people who shower.
81. You are what you do, not what you say.
82. Learn to change a tire.
83. Be kind. Everyone has a hard fight ahead of them.
84. An hour with grandparents is time well spent. Ask for advice when you need it.
85. Don’t litter.
86. If you have a sister, get to know her boyfriend. Your opinion is important.
87. You won’t always be the strongest or the fastest. But you can be the toughest.
88. Never call someone before 9am or after 9pm.
89. Buy the orange properties in Monopoly.
90. Make the little things count.
91. Always wear a bra at work.
92. There is a fine line between looking sultry and slutty. Find it.
93. You’re never too old to need your mom.
94. Ladies, if you make the decision to wear heels on the first date, commit to keeping them on and keeping your trap shut about how much your feet kill.
95. Know the words to your national anthem.
96. Your dance moves might not be the best, but I promise making a fool of yourself is more fun than sitting on the bench alone.
97. Smile at strangers.
98. Make goals.
99. Being old is not dictated by your bedtime.
100. If you have to fight, punch first and punch hard.

 A soulmate is not someone who shares your interests and is attractive to you. 
A soulmate is someone who is willing to grow with you,

who chooses to be with you until the end, 
and will love you through good and bad.
It’s not about sunshine and laughter, it’s about mundane moments filled with unknowns. 
Love is so much more than a spark you have, or passions shared, 
it’s working for something deeper and lasting. 
I think that at the end of all things, we’ll see what really matters, 
and I think the things we produced with love and grace will be what we have to show. 
So love with purpose, 
love beyond yourself, 
and love knowing that what you are growing is beautiful and good. 


jen huang

Follow the roadmap of memory that carried you through. 
Trace the lines of sad and heartbreak. 
Navigate the healing and honor the fault lines that divide what was from what is to come. Send wishes that all was and is as it should and must and will be. 
Trust that it is so…

Jeanette LeBlanc

Thursday, September 24, 2015

“Although we have been made to believe that if we let go we will end up with nothing, 
life itself reveals again and again the opposite: 
that letting go is the path to real freedom.” 

Sogyal Rinpoche 

Tuesday, September 22, 2015

You inherently long for the earth, your own skin, your passions, 
and your purpose that you fill your lungs with everything.
 Do not mistake the desire and longing for this type of fulfillment with the desire and longing for another human being. 
The greatest, wildest dance is ultimately with yourself 
and all that radiates outward from your own aliveness. 
This in turn will bring in the right people to share this dance alongside.

Victoria Erickson

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in the now

In the tantric tradition it is said that chaos is ‘extremely good news.’ 
When you are willing to enter into your neurosis, your confusion, and your hopelessness, you approach the threshold of the sacred world.
No matter where you look, all you can see is path. 
All of your experience is utterly valid and a pure reflection of life as it moves through you – life longing to know itself, finally, to be met, held, 
and metabolized within the vastness of loving presence.
You are starting to see that what appears is not a mistake, 
but a clear expression of a long-forgotten aspect of awareness, 
of an ancient vow you have taken to practice intimacy with all things. 
Each person, each holy feeling, 
each consecrated emotion a portal dropping into embodied presence.
It is risky to let in the reality that nothing is missing, that you are not flawed, 
and are not in need of fixing – that you could fully step into the miracle of the unfolding here and now, without first demanding life conform to your old dreams. 
You need not ‘heal your past,’ become ‘enlightened,’ meet your soul mate, 
manifest a cool spiritual job, 
or arrange your life circumstances according to the dictates of your hopes and fears. 
The kingdom of presence is here now. 
There is no love coming in the future. 
There is no grace arriving around the corner. 
It is shining out of your very body, pouring out of somatic pathways,
 and emerging out of your holy nervous system… right here, right now.
The risk of entering the gates of the mandala of wholeness is that, once inside, 
you will no longer be able to hide from your raging natural perfection. 
The dream of the unworthy one, the spell of the unlovable one, 
and the trance of the broken one will be dissolved in the crucible of aliveness. 
While a part of you will always yearn for this dissolution, 
you must ask to what degree this is what you truly want.
 For it is the disorienting end of one world and the glorious beginning of another.
Yes, it may seem like yet another ordinary Monday and that you are in an ordinary situation. But things are rarely what they seem. 
Please do not postpone your participation and wild embodiment for another moment.
 Love is here now. 
And is longing for you to offer yourself as a holding vessel 
through which it may come fully alive here. 
Love cannot do this without you. 
For love is you.

Matt Licata

the winged victory of samothrace

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