Friday, September 25, 2015

just a list

1.There are plenty of ways to enter a pool. The stairs is not one of them.
2. Never cancel dinner plans by text message.
3. Don’t knock it ‘til you try it. 
4. If a street performer makes you stop walking, you owe him a buck.
5. Always use ‘we’ when referring to your home team or your government.
6. When entrusted with a secret, keep it.
7. Don’t underestimate free throws in a game of ‘horse’.
8. Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.
9. Don’t dumb it down.
10. You only get one chance to notice a new haircut.
11. If you’re staying more than one night, unpack.
12. Never park in front of a bar.
13. Expect the seat in front of you to recline. Prepare accordingly.
14. Keep a picture of your first fish, first car, and first boy/girlfriend.
15. Hold your heroes to a high standard.
16. A suntan is earned, not bought.
17. Never lie to your doctor.
18. All guns are loaded.
19. Don’t mention sunburns. Believe me, they know.
20. The best way to show thanks is to wear it. Even if it’s only once.
21. Take a vacation of your cell phone, internet, and TV once a year.
22. Don’t fill up on bread, no matter how good.
23. A handshake beats an autograph.
24. Don’t linger in the doorway. In or out.
25. If you choose to go in drag, don’t sell yourself short.
26. If you want to know what makes you unique, sit for a caricature.
27. Never get your hair cut the day of a special event.
28. Be mindful of what comes between you and the Earth. Always buy good shoes, tires, and sheets.
29. Never eat lunch at your desk if you can avoid it.
30. When you’re with new friends, don’t just talk about old friends.
31. Eat lunch with the new kids.
32. When traveling, keep your wits about you.
33. It’s never too late for an apology.
34. Don’t pose with booze.
35. If you have the right of way, take it.
36. You don’t get to choose your own nickname.
37. When you marry someone, remember you marry their entire family.
38. Never push someone off a dock.
39. Under no circumstances should you ask a woman if she’s pregnant.
40. It’s not enough to be proud of your ancestry; live up to it.
41. Don’t make a scene.
42. When giving a thank you speech, short and sweet is best.
43. Know when to ignore the camera.
44. Never gloat.
45. Invest in good luggage.
46. Make time for your mom on your birthday. It’s her special day, too.
47. When opening presents, no one likes a good guesser.
48. Sympathy is a crutch, never fake a limp.
49. Give credit. Take blame.
50. Suck it up every now and again.
51. Never be the last one in the pool.
52. Don’t stare.
53. Address everyone that carries a firearm professionally.
54. Stand up to bullies. You’ll only have to do it once.
55. If you’ve made your point, stop talking.
56. Admit it when you’re wrong.
57. If you offer to help don’t quit until the job is done.
58. Look people in the eye when you thank them.
59. Thank the bus driver.
60. Never answer the phone at the dinner table.
61. Forgive yourself for your mistakes.
62. Know at least one good joke.
63. Don’t boo. Even the ref is somebody’s son.
64. Know how to cook one good meal.
65. Learn to drive a stick shift.
66. Be cool to younger kids. Reputations are built over a lifetime.
67. It’s okay to go to the movies by yourself.
68. Dance with your mother/father.
69. Don’t lose your cool. Especially at work.
70. Always thank the host.
71. If you don’t understand, ask before it’s too late.
72. Know the size of your boy/girlfriend’s clothes.
73. There is nothing wrong with a plain t-shirt.
74. Be a good listener. Don’t just wait for your turn to talk.
75. Keep your word.
76. In college, always sit in the front. You’ll stand out immediately.
77. Carry your mother’s bags. She carried you for nine months.
78. Be patient with airport security. They’re just doing their jobs.
79. Don’t be the talker in a movie.
80. The opposite sex likes people who shower.
81. You are what you do, not what you say.
82. Learn to change a tire.
83. Be kind. Everyone has a hard fight ahead of them.
84. An hour with grandparents is time well spent. Ask for advice when you need it.
85. Don’t litter.
86. If you have a sister, get to know her boyfriend. Your opinion is important.
87. You won’t always be the strongest or the fastest. But you can be the toughest.
88. Never call someone before 9am or after 9pm.
89. Buy the orange properties in Monopoly.
90. Make the little things count.
91. Always wear a bra at work.
92. There is a fine line between looking sultry and slutty. Find it.
93. You’re never too old to need your mom.
94. Ladies, if you make the decision to wear heels on the first date, commit to keeping them on and keeping your trap shut about how much your feet kill.
95. Know the words to your national anthem.
96. Your dance moves might not be the best, but I promise making a fool of yourself is more fun than sitting on the bench alone.
97. Smile at strangers.
98. Make goals.
99. Being old is not dictated by your bedtime.
100. If you have to fight, punch first and punch hard.



 A soulmate is not someone who shares your interests and is attractive to you. 
A soulmate is someone who is willing to grow with you,

who chooses to be with you until the end, 
and will love you through good and bad.
It’s not about sunshine and laughter, it’s about mundane moments filled with unknowns. 
Love is so much more than a spark you have, or passions shared, 
it’s working for something deeper and lasting. 
I think that at the end of all things, we’ll see what really matters, 
and I think the things we produced with love and grace will be what we have to show. 
So love with purpose, 
love beyond yourself, 
and love knowing that what you are growing is beautiful and good. 


T.B. LABERGE // GO NOW

jen huang

Follow the roadmap of memory that carried you through. 
Trace the lines of sad and heartbreak. 
Navigate the healing and honor the fault lines that divide what was from what is to come. Send wishes that all was and is as it should and must and will be. 
Trust that it is so…

Jeanette LeBlanc


Thursday, September 24, 2015

“Although we have been made to believe that if we let go we will end up with nothing, 
life itself reveals again and again the opposite: 
that letting go is the path to real freedom.” 

Sogyal Rinpoche 


Tuesday, September 22, 2015

You inherently long for the earth, your own skin, your passions, 
and your purpose that you fill your lungs with everything.
 Do not mistake the desire and longing for this type of fulfillment with the desire and longing for another human being. 
The greatest, wildest dance is ultimately with yourself 
and all that radiates outward from your own aliveness. 
This in turn will bring in the right people to share this dance alongside.

Victoria Erickson

via tumblr

in the now


In the tantric tradition it is said that chaos is ‘extremely good news.’ 
When you are willing to enter into your neurosis, your confusion, and your hopelessness, you approach the threshold of the sacred world.
No matter where you look, all you can see is path. 
All of your experience is utterly valid and a pure reflection of life as it moves through you – life longing to know itself, finally, to be met, held, 
and metabolized within the vastness of loving presence.
You are starting to see that what appears is not a mistake, 
but a clear expression of a long-forgotten aspect of awareness, 
of an ancient vow you have taken to practice intimacy with all things. 
Each person, each holy feeling, 
each consecrated emotion a portal dropping into embodied presence.
It is risky to let in the reality that nothing is missing, that you are not flawed, 
and are not in need of fixing – that you could fully step into the miracle of the unfolding here and now, without first demanding life conform to your old dreams. 
You need not ‘heal your past,’ become ‘enlightened,’ meet your soul mate, 
manifest a cool spiritual job, 
or arrange your life circumstances according to the dictates of your hopes and fears. 
The kingdom of presence is here now. 
There is no love coming in the future. 
There is no grace arriving around the corner. 
It is shining out of your very body, pouring out of somatic pathways,
 and emerging out of your holy nervous system… right here, right now.
The risk of entering the gates of the mandala of wholeness is that, once inside, 
you will no longer be able to hide from your raging natural perfection. 
The dream of the unworthy one, the spell of the unlovable one, 
and the trance of the broken one will be dissolved in the crucible of aliveness. 
While a part of you will always yearn for this dissolution, 
you must ask to what degree this is what you truly want.
 For it is the disorienting end of one world and the glorious beginning of another.
Yes, it may seem like yet another ordinary Monday and that you are in an ordinary situation. But things are rarely what they seem. 
Please do not postpone your participation and wild embodiment for another moment.
 Love is here now. 
And is longing for you to offer yourself as a holding vessel 
through which it may come fully alive here. 
Love cannot do this without you. 
For love is you.

Matt Licata

the winged victory of samothrace

Sunday, September 13, 2015


The hardest thing to do when you go back underwater, 
is talk about what the sky was like.

Iain Thomas 




At the heart of our matter as human beings, really the best thing of all is passion. 
Passion for another person, for a job, a cause, an idea, a place … 
Perhaps that’s what IT is all about – our purpose: 
trying to furnish your life with so many different kinds of passion that everywhere in it, 
there is something that fills you to bursting 
and makes you want to tell the whole world about it. 

 JONATHAN CARROLL


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